Dedicated to Skittles, and my short-lived
affection with her...
If only she ran a little faster, she may have evaded the police...
Whatever sky she sleeps under tonight,
I only hope that she dreams of good memories...
When looking at society, and seeing the constant
hypocrisies, the inconsistencies, the lies, a person can be inclined
only towards two mindsets. They will go along with what they see, they
will believe what they are told, they will find it awkward that anyone
could challenge things the way they are. Or, they will see the
outrightly absurd nature of things, they will see the lies, they will
see the propaganda, they will see the inconsistency, and they will
refuse to believe it. They will cry out for anything but this society
-- they will seek out reason, logic, truth. Anything that is
well-reasoned will sooth their heart, anything that is logically
demonstrated will be at peace with their mind. Their life will be
transformed into a journey, ceaselessly looking for the truth, wherever
it is, whatever it tells us, no matter what must be sacrificed to
discover it. In our society, we find that there are two people. Those
who will accept what they are told, will obey authority, will exist in
the way that television and radio has commanded them to exist. And
there are those who will condemn the way things are, will resist
authority, will point out all the inconsistencies and lies given to us.
In generations to come, they will be called heroes. In our own time,
they will be called instigators. Historians will regard them as the
cause to a change in society. Rationalists will treat them as the
finest examples of intelligent people. But what is it that they can
truly be called? Searching through the expanse of human language, what
name can rightly apply to someone who uses their mind? A person without
shackles on their mind, without a blindfold on their eyes, without
bondage on their heart, without lies in their mind... may be called a
Freethinker.
The theory which may be questioned most by any
Freethinker, is the theory of the modern morality. By this, I mean the
theory of monogamy, that a person ought to only have one sexual partner
at one time. But this theory is more than just that. Not only is it a
one-sexual-partner ideal, but it covers other ideas. Those who are
promiscuous with their bodies are treated as heartless and brutal. A
modern moralist will paint a picture of a slut, and every vice will be
given to them. They will say that promiscuous lovers are cruel, are
merciless, are vicious, will do anything to get sex, they have no
values, they cannot understand love, they are beyond the scope of
sympathy... A modern moralist will speak such great lies about the
promiscuous lover. Yet, they are wrong. I contend that there is no such
thing as a human being who is beyond the scope of sympathy, who cannot
understand love. Sympathy and love: these are but the most simple, most
basic, most true of all principles to any mammal. I have never known a
human being who didn't know the meaning behind tears; I never knew a
lover who didn't know the warm touch of affection; even to those who
have betrayed me or otherwise believe me to be a vicious mongrel, I
know that they too are capable of knowing the truth of love. To say
that a promiscuous lover breaks this very basic, scientific rule -- the
rule that states that all can know love and sympathy -- is to debauch
the face of truth.
The modern moralist will commit more crimes
against truth. It is believed that the person who is willing to be
physical soonest is of the lowest character, and it is believed that
the person holding out the longest is the greatest. A person willing to
give a kiss on the face to a person who has been disappointed by life,
a person willing to share intimacy and kindness through the physical
act of love, a person who knows that being a lover means loving -- this
person will be called a "slut" or a "whore." But then, there is another
type of person... There will be a man or a woman, who will refuse to
touch another from the opposite sex, who will look the other way when
someone is attracted to them, who will resist any form of affection.
This person, who has been taught to be revolted at the thought of sex
or physical kindness, will be upheld as a saint, as a "true person of
goodness." These lies that we are told, they sicken me. There was once
a time when, with a lover, my fingers caressed the smoothness of her
palm, and she kissed my neck. A philosopher who believes in the
sanctity of monogamy will look at this, and he will call her a tramp, a
slut, a whore. But when I was in the peace of those most cherished
moments, I see her angelic face, I feel her soft skin, and in my mind,
every trouble is a thousand miles away. For those few brief moments
with this lover (who I had known less than an hour), I discovered peace
and love. A person who believes in monogamy can speak all they want,
they can exhaust the human language as much as they can. But what they
say, will never take away the sincerity my lover's affection, will
never remove these memories that I tend to revisit when I loss the
peace I once had.
What arguments can I offer? What reasoning can I
barter with? When I feel the warmth of another's body close to mine,
when I know the tender caress on my face... what can I say to defend
this lifestyle? Call it "promiscuity" or "whoredom," call it what you
like. All the slanders and libels in the world will not detract from
the pleasure of it, will not destroy the intimacy of it. When I am
looking into the eyes of a lover, I will not be thinking of what they
say about me. They will condemn me to hell, but I am deaf to their
damnations. They will say I have no virtue, but still, I cannot hear
them. So long as my lover is running her fingers through my hair, as my
fingertips run down her back, they can say all they want about me,
because I am not hearing it. I remember once, as a child, seeing a
statue of a man and a woman. The woman was laying back onto the chest
of the man, while their hands were met together. It was made by the
Etruscan culture. Looking at this statue then, I saw intimacy and
kindness. I saw "I feel I can tell you anything." I saw "When I hear
you breath, it makes me live." I saw the gentle emotions of a lover not
wishing to cause any distress... In this small Etruscan statue, I found
respect, kindness, and truth. It was only several pounds of clay, but
it may have contained the secrets of the Universe.
If there is any argument that can be offered on
behalf of Free Love, or Polyamory, or whatever name one desires to give
the belief that we should not have one sexual partner -- if there is
any argument, it is the naturality of sex. Any person who confesses
they do not have lust is a liar. And any person who wishes to convince
others that their natural lust is immoral, this person is a vagrant.
When the passions that exist between the sexes are natural, when they
are a normal part of our minds, when they the act of love is simply a
bodily function, on what grounds can it be condemned? By playing a
sport, or by conversating with a friend, or by putting your sincere
thoughts on to paper, a person is using the parts of their body. There
is nothing wrong with it. There is no crime in it. No one is hurt. But,
when a person all of a sudden decides to use their sexual organs, to
please their natural desires, to express affection, to know the depths
of intimacy, our moralists will call it a crime! By using our body, as
we please, for the ends that we desire, and by hurting no one, they
call this a crime! But the search for our soul's content, the endless
journey of spirituality -- whether it manifests itself in the arms of
your lover, or in the books of the ancients -- it has always been
condemned by those who were too blind, too ignorant, too set in their
ways, to see more than five feet ahead of themselves. The search to
know what it means to feel gentle intimacy and friendly kindness, when
this search becomes sexual and a person express their desires, the
slanders I described above will be put against them.
A man who loves sex will be called a pervert and a
woman who hates it will be called a prude. A woman who loves sex will
be called a slut and a man who hates it will be called a misguided
fool. We are told these lies, over and over, by a society too foolish
to think for itself. It has been said by every liberal that freedom
means, doing what you will, as long as you do not infringe upon the
rights of others. If this is true, if liberty is not a guide but a path
to happiness, then by what right can we condemn those who wish to be
free form sexual dogma? Why, in fact, deny the natural instincts of
one's own sexuality? When we refuse what our heart seeks out, when we
turn away from our desires, when the aching to know the truth that is
inside all of us, when it is treated with an anesthetic -- at this
point, our soul begins to whither, and our spirit becomes something
foreign from when we were first born. If all men are born free, then it
is by rejecting our true selves that we become slaves to misery and
vice. I do not believe, however, that all men and women seek out sex as
the greatest good, nor do I believe they should. I believe that a
person should look into their hearts, and see for themselves what they
want. They should not be afraid of what society calls them. They should
not be afraid of how their friends react. They should not be afraid of
what may happen by discovering their heart's desire. Upon discovering
what sex means to them -- whether it is a great means of pleasure,
whether it is the most perfect way of expressing one's affections,
whether it is a combination of these and other ideas -- once a person
discovers what sex means to them, they should live a lifestyle
accordingly.
Just take some hypothetical scenarios... If you
were alone with a friend whom you cared about deeply, and you knew
there was an attraction between you -- and you felt that sex was the
greatest way to express your soul -- then what would be so wrong about
making such a proposition? Feeling the gentle touch of a lover over
your body, there is little more that can be seen as perfect security,
as perfect tranquility. What then, would you have gained from such an
encounter? Memories that will serve you in your darkest times, memories
of kindness, peace, and intimiacy; physical pleasure; and knowledge.
What would be the benefits of refusing such an encounter, when you know
that you longed for it in your heart? I can see little. Peace and truth
are the greatest ends of every humane person. There should never be a
reason for avoiding the path that leads to these humble desires. I had
once heard that a person was imprisoned by the government for oral sex,
what the law had regarded as a "Crime Against Nature." I contend that
the greatest crime against nature is refusing what your heart tells you
to do, allowing your soul to grow bitter and disenchanted with life.
By this new morality, this idea that it is no
crime to rub your face in the neck of your love, to let your fingers
speak for your soul... By this new morality, I propose that there
should never again be a girl full of tears, because she is lonely but
feels sex is immoral. I propose that there should never again be a man
frustrated with sex, because his hormones are building up but he feels
sex is a crime. I propose that men and women everywhere should throw
off the chains of an antiquated morality, of a slavery that kept their
heart in bondage. There should never again be a person who compromised
the desires of their heart with a vicious society, there should never
again be a person who is content with the daemons of loneliness, there
should never again be a person who knows the stinging pain of being
alone, there should never again be a person doomed to pain -- never
again should we allow these tears to amonut to nothing, never again
should we allow these cries to go unheard -- I propose that every man
and woman should not be afraid of sex, that they ought to do as their
heart tells them, as long as they make no one suffer... I propose that
our culture adheres closer to the sentiments of kindness and charity,
and closer to the principles of truth and reason.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Punkerslut (or Andy Carloff) has been writing essays and poetry on
social issues which have caught his attention for several years. His
website www.punkerslut.com
provides a complete list of all of these writings. His life experience
includes homelessness, squating in New Orleans and LA, dropping out of
high school, getting expelled from college for "subversive activities,"
and a myriad of other revolutionary actions.